Following on <!post=this Outlook thread,102712>this Outlook thread<!/post> and seriously lacking in Outlook object and coding knowledge, or good judgement, I attempted to force reminders to be set on received meeting requests which do not have a reminder (if I don't get a popup, I dunno it's due). Apart from being ugly in execution, the code seems to work, but I have some problems and question noted in the commented sections.

Outlook gurus please feel free to rewrite it (as opposed to telling me what I should have done). <img src=/S/shrug.gif border=0 alt=shrug width=39 height=15>

Private Sub Application_ItemSend(ByVal Item As Object, Cancel As Boolean)
<font color=448800>' using send event under ThisOutlookSession</font color=448800>
Dim objThisAppointment As AppointmentItem
Dim strReplySubjAction As String

If TypeName(Item) = "MeetingItem" Then
strReplySubjAction = Item.Subject '<font color=448800>get response from meetingitem response to be sent</font color=448800>
If InStr(strReplySubjAction, "Accepted:") Or InStr(strReplySubjAction, "Tentative:") Then
<font color=448800>' if accepted or tentative, get appointmentitem</font color=448800>
Set objThisAppointment = Item.GetAssociatedAppointment(True)
<font color=448800>' ensure its a future appointment, if only by two seconds</font color=448800>
If DateDiff("s", Now, objThisAppointment.Start) > 2 Then
<font color=448800>' see if reminder is not set</font color=448800>
If objThisAppointment.ReminderSet = False Then
objThisAppointment.Display
<font color=448800>' if it isn't displayed, it isn't set; how come?</font color=448800>
objThisAppointment.ReminderSet = True
<font color=448800>'MsgBox "Reminder Set:" & objThisAppointment.ReminderSet
' If not displayed, Property reports "True", but
' the reminder box remains unchecked; what gives?</font color=448800>
MsgBox "Reminder Set For: " & objThisAppointment.ReminderMinutesBeforeStart & _
" Minute(s) Before Start"
objThisAppointment.Close olSave
<font color=448800>' Now the next item in the inbox is activated, which I don't want
' How come I have to display it at all?</font color=448800>
End If
End If
End If
End If
End Sub